Frequently asked questions
Q: Therapy vs. coaching: what’s the difference?
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In my opinion, therapy is very past-focused. It’s like, “Let’s open the wound and swim around in it.” And sometimes that work is necessary. Therapy is also necessary to navigate previous diagnoses. And it is a great fit when all you really want to do is talk and be heard. Many times my clients might have a therapist alongside their work with me to address different issues.
In coaching, we touch on pieces of the past to better understand who you are, how you are, and what you really want so you can live fully in the "now" creating the life and relationships you know you are meant for.
Coaching is for those who have a deep belief that they were born for more, and they are willing to invest their time, money, and all that they have in pursuing their dreams.
If you are unsure if coaching or therapy is the best fit for you, book a call. We can navigate this question together so that you get the best support possible.
Q: What’s the difference between marriage coaching and marriage therapy?
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Marriage therapy tends to focus on the past, whereas marriage coaching has more of a forward-focused, creative approach to getting what you want.
Generally, people only go to a marriage therapist when things are “really bad.” One partner may be dragging the other in. I don’t work with couples in this scenario because it has proven ineffective. If you find yourself trying to convince your partner to join you in bettering your relationship, my advice is to pursue individual coaching.
Marriage coaching on the other hand, is for couples where both partners are willing to place their marriage at the top of their priorities. Both of them believe that intimacy is meant to be joyful and deeply fulfilling. Both are willing to work, change patterns, and seek to understand each other. Both partners are ready and willing to address issues for the greater good of the marriage and family.
Q: My partner refuses to even try this out. What should I do?
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I see it as a great tragedy when one partner limits their happiness waiting for the other partner to change. Pursue your own happiness! Our initial call is completely free, so there is zero risk. If your partner declines your invitation, then register for individual coaching! Your new attitude will likely be infectious and your partner may decide to hop on board as we go.
The reality is, you hold the key to your next level.
Q: Should I get individual coaching or couples coaching?
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If your partner is not on board, the answer is simple: book a call for individual coaching. He/she may come around as you pursue your own happiness (I see this more often than not).
If your partner is not sure if he/she is on board with couples coaching, let them know that the two of you can get onto a free call with me and decide then. Invite him/her to sit down with you (and my calendar) to book a call together. Fill out the application questions together. You can also send him to this page (FAQ) and the How it Works page, if he wants more information. If after an hour together we decide it is not a good fit, you will be one step closer to clarity about what you DO want and need together.
If you're not sure if your partner is on board with couples coaching but your heart truly desires it, invite them onto the free call. Let them know that there is no risk and that it would mean a lot to you if they would be willing to set aside the hour to consider coaching as an option for the two of you.
If you’re too afraid to ask your partner about couples coaching, book a call with me individually. I can help guide you to your truth and identify what you want, and what you need to get it.
Q: Should we book the call together or just me alone?
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If you are planning to explore couples coaching, book the call from start to finish, together. Choose a time that will work for both of you, when the kids won't need all of your attention, and fill out the application questions together. If you are planning on individual coaching, book the call individually. If you aren’t sure if you want individual or couples coaching, see the question above.
Q: I am at my wits’ end and on the brink of filing for divorce. Would your coaching help someone like me?
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Absolutely. Divorce is one of life’s hardest experiences. However, it can either be a living hell, or an empowered (albeit painful) step in your life. Women who pull the trigger from a place of trauma often live in that trauma for the next several years, and no one wants that. The goal of hiring an individual coach in this phase of your life is to bring you to a clear, authentic choice where you feel deeply supported from within, whether you decide to leave or stay.
Q: Do you coach men?
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I market to women because it helps me narrow my focus. However, I enjoy coaching men and hold individual sessions as needed during the couples program. The principles are just as powerful for men. It is such a thrill to see men step into their confidence and experience stronger pride in their connection and intimacy. Feel free to apply for an initial consultation to see if it makes sense for both of us.
Q: My wife wants me to do this, but I am skeptical. Why should I do this?
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The couples I have worked with walk away with easier communication. They are more adventurous. There is more intimacy. And BOTH individuals feel more confident being themselves around each other. You’ll:
Have your needs understood and met.
Have your actions for the family seen and appreciated.
Have your desires expressed in a space where they won't be shamed.
This work won't be easy, but if having comfort and freedom in your relationship is important to you, it will absolutely be worth it. I don't expect you to be sure if this is right for your marriage based on reading a few articles, which is why I offer an initial call with zero risk. Apply now.
Q: How much does it cost?
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After speaking together, I will outline a plan that is the best fit for you and the specific goals you want. I never create coaching containers that are shorter than 3 months. Pricing is dependent on the duration of coaching that will be most beneficial in creating your specific goals. I work through payment plans with my clients as needed.
Q: What is the time commitment?
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This will vary deoending on what program we determine is best for you. I encourage you to give it everything you’ve got! After all, this is YOUR DREAM we are creating together!
Q: HOW CAN I LEARN MORE ABOUT MELISA KEENAN?
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I am happy to share my story with you! Pull up a seat and read here.
Q: Need a different question answered?
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Not a problem! Email support@melisakeenan.com
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